How to stay positive.
Irene R. Shuck
16 Nov. 2008
I was day dreaming the other day and I was recalling a conversation I had with a friend over 6 years ago. She was struggling with what she wanted to do with her life. She was also struggling with her relationships within her family. I remembered her asking me how do you do it? How do you keep a positive attitude when everything and every one around you is determined to make you fail?
I remember saying to her that every choice we make in this life is up to us. How we choose to respond to the people in our lives. How we choose to respond to the challenges in our lives. Most of all; how we choose to carry ourselves in the face of adversity.
My biggest thing in my life that I do probably every two years I call “Weeding my Garden.” That’s when I think about all of the connections I’ve made in the last two years. I think about the kinds of people I have drawn to myself. I think about the type of relationship we have. Is it a mutually rewarding relationship? Where when I’m down I can count on that person and when they are down they can count on me or is it a relationship where they do all the talking I do all the listening and by the end of the conversation they feel great and I feel awful.
In Friendships, it’s very important to be a good friend. Not all friendships are the same. I have friends I talk to once or twice a year. It doesn’t bother either of us. We know that the other is busy and they’ll call when they have time. Then we have the needy friends. Then we have friends that are our friends only because of what we may do for a living or what we can bring to the table.
When making friends, I find myself being drawn to vibrant, eclectic, and unusual people. I love these kinds of people. I love hearing their story and how they got to where they are. Many times they stay in my life only briefly, but I am very grateful for having met such an interesting person.
So when you think about how do you do it? How do you keep a positive attitude? The answer is… It’s a choice. It’s about the people you allow into your life. It’s about your life experiences that made you who you are today. It’s about taking measures to become the person you wish to be. It’s about being and becoming the very best person you would like to know and be friends with. It’s so worthwhile choosing to be positive.
Choose your path today. Choose to be happy, choose to be successful, choose to be healthy. The choices you make today determine your tomorrow.